You might think you left most of your insecurity behind as you grew-up. However, the opposite is likely to be true. Perhaps, as you began to recognize the world wanted you to look and behave a certain way, you lost confidence. When you wanted to skip, the world said “Walk!” And when you wanted to throw bright colored streamers around and dance, the world shouted “Sit down!”
You were socialized, conditioned, and thoroughly housetrained, which helped you live in society without disturbing too many people. You learned it was important to fit in, not to be different. If you tried to step outside the box, people frowned, and some were unpleasant. You understood that, although everyone often said, “just be yourself,” they meant be a little bit you, but mostly like everyone else.
Somewhere, under the conditioned you, lives the unconditioned you, who doesn’t fit neatly into the space provided by society. There’s nothing wrong with that part of you, in fact, it’s more you than the you the public see, which means it’s natural and has a bright spark. The observable you is slightly faded, a washed-out version of who you are inside.
Many people struggle to find acceptance in the world when they try to let their unconditioned selves shine. They face opposition, turmoil, and insults. Nonetheless, they are the artists, innovators, and providers of wisdom amid a sea of confusion and repression. Don’t misunderstand, fitting in can be useful, it helps you find support and approval, but allowing your true self out more often will show you the way forward.
People who discover their life purpose spend time in the flow, where they let their unconditioned selves take over. You’ve already been there yourself occasionally. It happens when you lose time and feel whole. If you’re lucky, or wise, you practice flowing more than on the odd occasion, and the more you do so, the more ‘you’ you are.
If you want to know why you are here and fulfill your life purpose, aim to be authentic. Instead of caring what other people think, do what you are moved to do. Express yourself without worrying how you appear to others, and spend time carrying out activities and behaviors that make you feel whole. Practicing often will coax your unconditioned self into the open where it’s supposed to be.