Why sleep health influences your relationship

People often consider their environment when looking for what might influence how well they sleep, but leave one important factor out of the situation; their sleep partner. Your sleep buddy can affect the quality of shut-eye you experience, since he or she might disturb you, or on a nicer note, help make you feel secure as you drift off to the land of Nod. At the same time, if you have insomnia, your relationship may suffer; there’s nothing like that wretched, haven’t had enough sleep feeling to make you irritable and snappy. But are men and women influenced similarly regarding sleep?

According to a recent study, men’s moods in the day may reflect whether they’ve had a good night’s sleep. Women, on the other hand, sleep better if they haven’t experienced conflict with their partner in the daytime. Such results aren’t surprising, but might make you realize how important your partner’s mood or sleep health is to you personally. Naturally, you may be concerned about his or her wellness surrounding sleep, but now you know that your own wellness is wound up with your partner’s too. If you’re a woman you may need peace of mind in order to get sufficient shut-eye, and if you’re a man, you might need sufficient slumber to aid healthy interaction with your partner. Thus, maybe, healthy sleep and a healthy relationship go together.

Nonetheless, other studies show that men tend to sleep better next to their partner, compared to women who may sometimes have a raw deal. Women aren’t so likely to enjoy a healthy night’s kip when they are beside their beloved. Often, men snore, or might be described by their partner as “thrashing around” in their sleep. Everyone, man or woman, moves about while sleeping, but it could be that women are naturally less resilient to disturbances in the night: they are hardwired to wake easily when their baby cries so that they can attend to them.

Many women have dual feelings about whether they should lie awake next to their partner or move into the spare room. They could get a better night’s rest if they did so, but would lose some intimacy from their relationship. Snuggling up next to your partner is a bonding experience and might be important if you don’t see them much in the day. You may not have time to talk, but at least you are physically together. There again, inadequate sleep could result in a plummeting immune system and corresponding irritability. Therefore, relationships involving tired individuals may suffer anyway… Another way around the situation could be for women to snuggle in the same bed as their partners for a short while, before slipping into the spare room.

References: http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/news/publications/johns_hopkins_health/summer_2014/sleep_partner_perks
http://www.nbcnews.com/id/21091112/ns/health-sleep/t/men-sleep-better-beside-mate-women-worse/#.VkIELPnhCUk

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Bridget Webber’s background rests in mental health, counselling, hypnotherapy, NLP and art. She brings knowledge from her experiences into her writing and specializes in emotional wellness and the creation of, rather than search for, joy. You can catch up with her insights and musings on Twitter.

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