Drop your baggage

Grudges cause emotional pressure. There’s no good reason not to let go of burdens, but people want justice, or to make sense of what’s happened to them. When you unburden yourself, though, you drop your baggage, and the significance of past events lessens. The intensity level drops, and you remember what the trouble was, but don’t feed anxiety with your imagination anymore. Consequently, unhappy memories no longer have the power to drag you down.

Do you need to drop your baggage?

Let’s stick to the short answer, which is yes.

Everyone has emotional burdens. Yours are personal to you but are likely to stem from unclosed doors; those events from your past where closure hasn’t happened. You might have left your emotional doors open on purpose because you don’t feel matters are over. On the other hand, you may have unwittingly kept a high-pressure event from the past going by not recognizing you fuel it with attention.

Why you need to drop your baggage

Past events where others mistreated you or let you down, or you didn’t behave as you wish you had, weigh you down. There are times when you don’t notice the pressure, but then, something happens to trigger unresolved feelings, and the burden comes crashing down. Mostly, you need to forgive. You need to forgive people for hurting you, and yourself for what’s already happened. The past has gone and can only be continued into the future if you carry it, and it’s heavy.

Forgiveness

You can drop your baggage by recognizing your past does not define you. You are what you are in the present. Anything that’s happened to you has shaped you, but those events aren’t you, and you can choose to let them go, just keeping the lessons you’ve learned and inner resolve.

When you hold a grudge, if you don’t forgive others, your anger or sadness doesn’t have an impact on them, it influences you. Consequently, when you let go, you unburden yourself and take back your power. You resume control.

The same happens if you don’t forgive yourself, or you imagine an event is the center of you. No event or person is the center of who you are. At your core is the real you who exists now. That person is bright and wise and will shine when you set your baggage down, forgive, and move into the present.

Start afresh

Maybe you didn’t have the childhood you deserved, went through a painful divorce, or lost someone you loved, and residual feelings due to unmet closure ensue. You can’t unmake these happenings, but you can take a deep breath and choose to deal with them in wise ways.

You might want to begin by writing your feelings down. Let rip, saying all you need to say about how you feel. Don’t worry about how angry or negative your words are, just put them on paper or your word processor.

Next, decide to forgive all and place your past behind you. Then press delete. Bring forth anything positive you’ve gained. You might have grown in strength and wisdom, or maybe you have greater knowledge now than you had back then. Undergo an emotional spring clean. Like clearing your closet of old shoes and clothes, go through what burdens you, only keeping the lessons you’ve learned and setting aside grief, anger, and pain.

If your baggage is huge, be kind and patient with yourself. Letting go is tough when you’ve held on for years. See the exercise as a way of cleansing your heart to making room for more love, since each burden you release frees space within.

About bridget

bridget webber

Bridget Webber’s background rests in mental health, counselling, hypnotherapy, NLP and art. She brings knowledge from her experiences into her writing and specializes in emotional wellness and the creation of, rather than search for, joy. You can catch up with her insights and musings on Twitter.

Twitter: @InsightManager

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